In America, we are taught independence is best. We live in such a way
that we fool ourselves into believing we can do anything if we just work hard
enough. The “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” philosophy. I, too, was one that bought into this way of
thinking. I have always been a very
independent person. Even as a young girl I enjoyed doing things my own way and
on my own. I am slowly learning that full
independence is not healthy and maybe not even what God desires of us to begin
with.
A month ago I could drive myself to
work or to the store or even to a new part of the city I had never been to
before. I could go for a walk or ride my
bicycle around my street without wondering if I would be safe or if I would be
able to adequately communicate with whom I may meet. Maybe that is why culture shock this time around
has presented itself as having to do with lack of independence. As a white
female in East Africa, life has become completely about dependence. I do not
travel anywhere alone, I do not drive myself anywhere, often I am not in control of what I eat or when,
and there have even been times when I am unable to go to the bathroom alone
(because it is located outside in TZ and its not safe alone at night). In fact, the most alone time I get is up in
my room or in the library at school before tea time reading or having a quiet
time.
When you read that last paragraph
you may think, “wow you really are complaining..whats the point?” Well, I didn’t
mean to complain I am really just trying to set the stage for you to understand
these lessons I am learning. Largely, my
definition of independence and its importance has been shattered. In a good
way! The most beneficial way possible! You see, I observe my African friends,
co-workers, and peers when there is an important need that arises. At first I was very self-conscious wondering
if I was inconveniencing them by making them go out of their way for me. After
a request I would watch them for any sign of frustration, annoyance, or the
like. It never came. One time I even asked and was met with a reply of, “of
course not! Everyone has needs”……enter light bulb moment. I have learned from many that the safest, most
effective, and enjoyable way to live involves dependence. We NEED others. We
NEED God. We can try and pretend we are completely capable, self-sufficient,
independent humans or we can admit the truth….everyone has needs. If I could be completely independent I would
not even have a need for Jesus. Let me tell you, I KNOW I need Jesus!
Living
in East Africa takes dependence on others but especially on God. You cant be an
island…well, healthily anyway. Plus, these
concepts are actually biblical. The book of Acts is full of scripture discussing
living in community with others and with God.
Acts 2: 44 “All the
believers were together and shared everything”
I know that I did not get myself to East Africa
so while living here why would I try to act like I don’t need others and that I
don’t need God? I am not. I refuse it. I am thankful that I am surrounded by
trustworthy followers of Him and that I serve a BIG God that is worthy! This
makes dependence dare I say…..fun?
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